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Self-Compassion Break

A three-part practice from Kristin Neff: acknowledging suffering, recognising shared humanity, offering yourself kindness.

A guided practice. Follow at your own pace. No AI, no typing required.

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Mind · 8 min
Perilune · Tend
Self-Compassion Break
What this is

Kristin Neff's research shows self-compassion is one of the most powerful regulators of the stress response.

It is not self-pity. It is treating yourself the way you would treat a close friend who was suffering.

Step 1: Acknowledge

Bring to mind something that is difficult right now.

Place a hand on your chest.

Say quietly: This is a moment of suffering. This is hard. I am struggling right now.

Just acknowledge it.

Step 2: Shared humanity

Bring to mind the fact that suffering is not unique to you.

Every human being struggles. You are not alone in this.

Say quietly: I am not alone. This is part of being human.

Step 3: Kindness

Ask: what would I say to a close friend who was feeling exactly what I am feeling?

Say that to yourself.

Or simply: May I be kind to myself in this moment. May I give myself what I need.

The brief version

In three breaths:

Breath one: This is suffering. I acknowledge it.

Breath two: I am not alone in this.

Breath three: May I be kind to myself right now.

Practice complete.
You deserve the same compassion you give to everyone else. That is not sentimentality. It is research.
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